Week 37: It’s Getting Cramped in Here

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 11
Bra Size: 34A  38C

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12 11
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Greater Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex), Bad Sleep (-1 Cha), Pregnancy Brain (-1 Int)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16 15
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus, Project Queen

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex), Anxiety (-1 Wis)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 19.13″ crown to heel
Weight: 6.30 lb

Str: 7
Dex: 6
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll, Squirm
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is pretty much set to go, it’d just be nice if she stayed put and gained a few more ounces. I hope she does!

This week, she is apparently the size of a skunk, a few of which I’ve seen tottering around our yard during the evening and definitely smelled at night:

 

Overall: Honestly, things are going pretty well. I’m uncomfortable, but that’s to be expected. I’m frustrated with my inability to do basic things – like walk long distances, pick up awkward objects, and garden – but I can still keep up with the cats and my wife and work. I’m learning to work with and around the discomfort, although it’s hard to remember to be kind and gentle with myself.

We went apple picking this weekend as a mini baby moon. I want to do more to get out of the house in the coming weeks, especially as it’s finally cooling down. I can’t help but be sad that I wasn’t able to reach out and make friends before the inevitable baby coccooning happened, but between moving and getting set up and working full time, I honestly don’t know how I could have made that happen. But now it’s autumn and apparently we’re going to mimic the seasons and start slowing down and turning inwards. Hopefully, come spring we’ll be ready to blossom and begin anew.

Work is exciting. Betas on the two big projects are due end of this week, the complete projects are due end of next week. These looming deadlines are the only reason I sometimes expect Lady Jr might come early, hah. Or maybe it will be right afterwards, when I can finally breathe and relax. Or maybe my original prediction of 4 days past her due date, or maybe Oct 16th which is the next full moon – who knows??

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Severe hip pain from sleeping. It sucks. It also makes me not want to go to bed, ever. I have a pregnancy pillow that goes between my knees, but it doesn’t always stay there. I am a wiggly sleeper, apparently. I also cannot wait to be able to sleep on my back again. Just 0-5 more weeks!

Hemorrhoids. They’re not severe in the least, but long walks = major discomfort. Suffice to say, I do not appreciate one of my few remaining Fun Activities being severely truncated.

Related: more pressure in my pelvis and everything in that area in general. My bladder is somehow even more squished than it was.

 

Preparations for Lady Jr: We re-arranged all the furniture in the bedroom so that now it makes a little more sense and the crib fits comfortably in a side-car position. We still need to attach the crib to the bed so that it can’t be pushed away – which is very necessary because I’m already doing that on my own, lol – but otherwise we’re set.

We made the final Amazon baby registry purchase, grabbing all of the completion discount we could and the items we think will be Necessary and/or Very Useful. Mostly this is a disparate jumble of odds n’ ends, like a mirror for the car, a changing pad cover, a big-ass water bottle (for me), baby nail clippers, a diaper pail liner, snappis, and a portable changing pad. We are so Ready.

 

Exercise: So much walking. We did an hour-long pokewalk with some of Dr Lady’s science acquaintances on Thursday and we went apple picking on Sunday and I’ve been going for 15-20min walks throughout the day during the work week. I’ve also been doing air squats and stretches whenever I’m stuck in a boring meeting for work and have hit the garage gym for a more “normal” workout.

 

Appointments: One last Thursday. Everything checks out, still normal for growth, still normal heartbeat. I mentioned the shiite ton of BH I’ve been having and the OB wasn’t concerned. OB also doesn’t do cervix checks, which I find somewhat calming. I’ve read too many stories about women who weren’t at all dilated going into labor the next day and women at 2-3cm who stayed that way for weeks, so I prefer not to know either way.

Appointments are weekly now, so I have another one this Thursday.

 

Dr Lady: Manic. Nesting. Adorable as all get-out. She was the one who insisted we get the last few baby things we (probably) need and then get out of the house. She also spent Sunday morning landscaping the yard, something I kept trying to help with but I just. can’t. bend like that. anymore.

She’s easily walking as far as I am these days. She still has an ingrown toenail, but now she has a dr’s appointment to get that checked out this week. Her other foot continues to improve, I just can’t challenge her anymore.

Lab is a bit hard for her, since she will be working up until Lady Jr makes her debut, whenever that is. Since she has to plan experiments and set things up that can take several days to several weeks to complete, it’s a little stressful for her not knowing *when*.

 

Progress Photo:

37 Weeks

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Week 36: The Final Countdown

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 11
Bra Size: 34A  38C

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12 11
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18 17

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex), Bad Sleep (-1 Cha), Pregnancy Brain (-1 Int)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16 15
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus, Project Queen

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex), Anxiety (-1 Wis)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 18.66″ crown to heel
Weight: 5.78 lb

Str: 7
Dex: 6
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll, Squirm
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is gaining about an ounce a day. Is that why I feel so much bigger each day?? She’s also shedding her fuzzy coat (and eating it wtf), a coat not (too) unlike this chihuahua’s, which apparently she is the size of this week:

 

Overall: I’ve officially switched from “omg how is it already x weeks??” to “are we there yet?” I am so done with sharing my body, so done with all the physical limitations, so done with feeling like a stranger in my own skin. Dr Lady asked if I resented Lady Jr, and I truly don’t. I have no ill will towards her and every little squirm makes me smile, I’m just ready to be done. And then I feel guilty because I signed up for this and it hasn’t even been that bad. I can still do a lot of things. I’m just impatient to be doing more.

Otherwise dealing with a bit of an identity crisis on and off, related to the physical limitations, but also some mental ones. Since almost day one of this pregnancy, my imagination has been shot. I have tried to write off and on with limited success. I thought it was just the exhaustion, but then second trimester hit and I felt almost normal again – except for my writing. It’s a bizarre feeling, not being able to tell stories. I used to spin out plots in my head at all hours of the day, especially on walks and while trying to fall asleep. Now I reach out for that same impulse but it’s like moving a phantom limb: I can tense my invisible fingers but they grasp nothing. The muscle memory is there, but the muscle itself is gone.

It’s bizarre and I know all I can do is be patient and hope it’s hormones, but I’m worried. Writing is my life. Or it was. But I don’t even care about it any more. Or reading, which is terrible. But who am I without writing? My job is intentionally not a career, I don’t have anything beyond a BA, and I’ve never wanted to make being a mom my core identity. But I don’t have any other skills. So of course I’m going to panic a little.😦

I know things will change – and soon – but I don’t know how much they will change.

But then I think about biking with Lady Jr this time next year, or taking her for walks, or celebrating Christmas with a newborn, or showing her the first buds of spring, or watching her pick up Dr Lady’s mannerisms – and none of that matters.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: More extensive boob leakage. It’s not a lot, but it’s enough to make me open the pack of nursing pads we got and start using one.

Massive braxton hicks. They seem to be related to extensive movement and/or a lack of electrolytes. After my tiny panic earlier last week, we acquired some electrolyte tabs and that seemed to help. Until we went for a bike ride Sunday, and then I just had BH the entire. time. So. I don’t think I’ll be biking again for a while. It’s just too uncomfortable, and kind of wore me out.

Lady Jr has been shoving her feet further and further up towards my ribs and suddenly my loosest bra is tight. I think these things are related. It’s about time to invest in some nursing bras anyway.

 

Preparations for Lady Jr: Installed the car seat last night. And immediately questioned whether we had done it right. How is something that should be so simple so strangely complicated? I think I might make an appointment with a car seat tech, since the internet is only so helpful.

Acquired flip flops for the hospital. Also for the yard. It’s nice having something that fits my big feet and lets me dash the trash across the yard.

Started gathering things for freezer meals. I have a few recipes on pinterest and there’s one I need to throw together today involving cranberries and pork pot roast. It’s difficult finding things that sound good, but are also gluten- and nightshade-free. I’ve gotten so used to being able to eat whatever I want that it’s going to be hard going back.

 

Exercise: Walks, although terribly truncated because holy shit there are a ton of mosquitoes.😦 A little lifting. One short and one long bike ride, although not to be repeated because of all the BH. Air squats and resistance band stretches throughout the work day.

 

Appointments: One at the end of this week.

 

Dr Lady: She is a little bit anxious and panicky. Also sensitive. I’ve been stepping on her toes more than usual – both figuratively and literally – and we’ve both been having to take extra time to listen and talk to each other. Although she’s super excited about Lady Jr and already fiercely protective, she’s worried about how much our relationship will change post baby. I am too. I’m confident we’ll be okay… eventually, but I also know that it can be very hard and it will take a lot of work.

Still having foot problems. She’s trying to find a doctor, but they all have 6+ week waitlists for new patients.😦

 

Progress Photo:

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All the Braxton Hicks

Seriously. All of them. I don’t think any are left for anyone else.

I’m not too worried (yet), but I could do with some breaks. I don’t usually get them at night or later in the day, which is why I suspect they’re more from dehydration. Lol, if you can call it that – I already drink twice as much water as I did before. But I do get them for hours on end, sometimes one right after another, sometimes one that never really stops.

The internet seems to be strictly divided on what this means. Half thinks I should call the nurse if I have more than 6 in an hour – which makes me wonder if the hour-long ones count. Half thinks that I should just lie down and drink more water and chill. Since doing so does seem to help, I’ve been leaning in that direction.

Anybody else have something similar? Since I have 2 big projects due at the end of September, I can’t help but wonder if I’m even going to make it that far. Oh well – if not, I’ve tried to warn work multiple times. We’ll just see.

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Week 35: Daunting but Doable

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18 17

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex), Bad Sleep (-1 Cha)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus, Project Queen

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 18.19″ crown to heel
Weight: 5.25 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll, Squirm
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is pretty much set. She just needs to keep growing. Grow baby grow! And stay in there. Oh god. Please.

This week she’s the size of a mini lop rabbit:

 

Overall:  35 weeks. When – when did that happen.

I’m starting to transition to when will this be over though. 36 weeks is when the doc won’t try to stop labor from progressing, so technically Lady Jr could arrive any time from one week out to six. While we’re planning to have all the absolute essentials ready and in place by 36 weeks, I’d really like it if she just stayed put until 39 or 40. I am definitely not emotionally ready yet, although that process has begun.

There is no more “if.” There is only “when.” Which is a really big shift for me, having played this whole TTC game of “if if if” for so long. I feel like I was still super cautious up until 30 weeks, and then that finally began to change to certainty.

Now I’m more and more uncomfortable and less and less scared of birth. I’m almost ready to just be done and on the other side of this journey already, but that’s how journies go – the best, the most grueling, the most rewarding always have a point towards the end where you know you’ve already come so far, but you still have so far to go. And you’re tired and your sore and you’re ready to be done, but you know it’s going to get quite a bit more uncomfortable before it’s over.

Daunting, but doable.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Leaking: it’s not just for boobs!

No really. I thought it was just really humid here and then we had a “cold” snap and I realized, no, I am in fact slightly incontinent. Fuuuuck. I’ve figured out it has something to do with positioning and the way baby is sitting on my bladder, but it’s really inconvenient.

Sore abs from trying to sit up in bed at night. I can still physically sit up, but I need to stop because it is increasingly uncomfortable and bordering on painful.😦

Painful braxton hicks. Not enough to be worrisome, but enough to make me stop and wait them out. I’ll get a bunch in a row and just have to stop what I’m doing until they go away. I think it’s hydration related, because it’s only happened after busy mornings where I’ve been out and about without a water bottle. It’s just crazy how much water I have to drink.

 

Preparations for Lady Jr: Dr Lady and I watched a mini youtube series about child birth (this one) that I’d already watched a few months ago but still found super informative to review. She and I are both re-reading the Birth Partner, which has also been incredibly helpful for both of us. Between that and all the birth stories I’ve read, I’m feeling pretty confident about what to expect in the upcoming weeks.

The baby closet is pretty much set and now we’re slowly acquiring things for the hospital bag. I have a comfy nursing gown that I could just wear all the time that we got this weekend. We realized the disposables someone gave us were actually newborn-sized, so we’re set there. We have a few more things to find/acquire, but I think we’re on track to have all the necessities by 36 weeks, which was my goal.

We have a car seat!! Family gifted this to us off our registry, so now we can officially take Lady Jr home from the hospital if she were to arrive now. Well, okay, not quite – we still need to install it. Hopefully this week. For those interested, we decided on the Diono Radian for a handful of reasons: well-rated, can rear-face for a very long time, narrower than most car seats so other passengers can still sit on either side, comfy, folds up for easy transport, apparently fits on plane seats??, also honestly just looks nice. It’s a convertible, i.e. we’re skipping the infant car seat, but I think that just works best for our lifestyle.

That said, it *is* heavier than other carseats and I’ve read a few places that it can be difficult to install. Since we only have one car and we’ll probably only need to install it once or twice, I’m okay with this. We can always hop by the fire department if we can’t figure it out ourselves.

Other things… god, everything? This was a three day weekend, so we tried to cram as much as we could because we want to have everything done before October. That will obviously not happen, but hopefully we’ll have new blinds, a/c, a shower that actually drains, and a working toilet pre-baby. Two of those things are currently in the works.

 

Exercise: Some lifting (I really need to do more, or at least a little every day), and a lot of walking. I was on my feet for about half the weekend and I’ve been doing more squats and stretches during the week. We went on a long walk for my birthday and a pokewalk with some new acquaintances on Thursday, which was awesome. More walks! I love walks. Except for the mosquitoes. So. Many. Mosquitoes.

We just fixed up the bikes tonight and we’re going to try them out tomorrow – see how that goes.

 

Appointments: Dr Lady came with me to the 34 week appointment and was impressed by how timely the doctor was. Everything checked out fine – Lady Jr is head down and growing right as she should be. I learned about their office’s induction policy – they prefer to schedule early in the 41st week because inductions can both a) take a while and b) get bumped back. Doctors 100% do not want to go over 42 weeks these days, which I understand. But also, whew – no pressure right? Only got 7 days after my due date to get this baby out on my own.

 

Dr Lady: Manic as fuck. I think she’s nesting instead of me, because she wants to get All the Things Ready before October and so she went a bit crazy this weekend starting projects and gathering items and making lists. I feel a bit useless because half the time all I can do is sit on the floor and watch her do this or that. I guess it’s good one of us is nesting?

 

Progress Photo:

september-5

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Maternity meets Birthday Photos

Every year for the past six years, I’ve tried to take some sort of ridiculous/appropriate/fun self portrait around my birthday. I’ve skipped one or two years because of depression, but I still feel like it’s a tradition worth keeping.

At first I wasn’t sure what to do for this year’s photos, but then it was obvious. My goal/aspiration/word for 30 and beyond is Strong. I want to become the strongest I’ve ever been, and can be, and I want to be that kind of badass 30/40-year old woman that I’ve looked up to for the past half decade. I can’t really begin work on that goal until Lady Jr is out and stable and I’m fully recovered, but in the meantime I can prepare.

In the meantime, I have been preparing. Even though I pictured myself a Crossfitting, consistently lifting, 5k running, pregnant lady and I fell way short of that ideal, I’ve continued to lift throughout and I wanted to reflect that. I wanted photos that helped me remember I’m still meeting my goal. I wanted photos that make me feel like the badass I want to be. Also I wanted to thumb my nose at the fertility doc who told me I should stop lifting altogether.😛

Obligatory note of caution: listen to your body and listen to your doc. All ladies can lift, but not all pregnant ladies should lift. I’d been lifting for 4 years before I got pregnant and I’ve also had a complications-free pregnancy. I know the movements backwards and blindfolded and I know my body. I have stopped workouts when I felt something wasn’t right and I have been dropping the weights I lift since first tri. Only you know your body.

Whew.

With that out of the way, have some photos below the cut.

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Week 34: Blue

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18 17

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex), Bad Sleep (-1 Cha)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 17.72″ crown to heel
Weight: 4.73 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is peeing up to a pint a day – and breathing it in/drinking it again. Babies are nothing if not classy.

Speaking of breathing, most every organ is as developed as it’s gonna get in there, except for her lungs. Those could use a few more weeks of cooking.

This week, Lady Jr is the size of a quokka, whatever that is:

 

Overall:  Still having a hard time, although my sleep has improved a little. I’m being careful not to eat too much before going to bed and have switched places with Lady so that I’m jammed up against the wall to sleep and therefore can’t rolled onto my back as easily. Between these two changes and a shite ton of pillows, I’ve been consistently getting 3-4 hour stretches of sleep, which is ah-maz-ing.

I can’t tell if it’s hormones or the aftermath of the move, but I’ve been dipping in and out of depression a lot lately. There’s also just so much to DO and I don’t have the energy to do ANY of it, which has been irritating my inner virgo. The house is very slowly coming together after the initial rush of unpacking, but never fast enough.

I’m turning 30 on Wednesday and I half want to celebrate like no tomorrow and half want to hide and pretend there is no birthday. It doesn’t seem like there’s really any proper way to celebrate what with everything else going on.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: None this week. Instead, let’s go with

Things Wot I Miss:
– Running
– Walking longer than 30min without pain
– Sleeping on my back
– Sleeping through the night
– Not being eternally thirsty
– Wearing cute clothes
– Lifting heavy
– Wearing my wedding ring (well, technically it’s on a chain around my neck, but you know)
– Bending over
– Not having to pee every 30min
– Lying on the floor
– Normal emotional reactions

Things Wot I am Enjoying:
– Baby squirms and wiggles
– Full license to be as lazy as ever
– Honestly, baby movements x 100
 
Preparations for Lady Jr: I washed some onesies we’d received that were new and I might have gone out to Old Navy and acquired some pumpkin & candy corn long-sleeve onesies because we literally have three newborn things and that’s it. Now as someone who was a 8.5lb baby, I know we don’t need more than a few newborn things, but omg lookit those candy corns and try to tell me no.😛

I also went through and organized all the baby clothes we have, hence knowing how very few newborn things are in the closet.

This weekend I went ahead and put the crib together so we could see how much space it takes up and how it sits in the room. Cats love to sleep in it, of course.

The registry is finally “done” and has gone out to parents and whomever else has requested it. The completion discount is available now and it’s kind of blowing my mind.

 

Exercise: Some lifting, some walking. My bumperplates came in last week and I was deadlifting every day until this weekend. Then I did several compound and static barbell exercises while Lady took photos for a sort of DIY maternity photoshoot.

 

Appointments: One coming up this week.

 

Dr Lady: Foot still hurts. Work is slow and disappointing. Scratch that: she has encountered some obstacles and things aren’t going exactly as they should, gosh darnit.

As for baby, Lady is excited but a little nervous about having the house ready in time. She has a list of projects she wants to get done but time is a-ticking. Suddenly, six weeks seems a lot shorter.

But she’s reading and talking to Lady Jr and still feeling the love. I think she’s likewise feeling the too soon/not soon enough bug.

 

Progress Photo:

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Week 33: Getting Uncomfortable

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 17.20″ crown to heel
Weight: 4.23 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr has developed an immune system! She’s also getting better at opening her eyes when she’s awake and closing them to sleep. I guess she wasn’t doing this before?

Honestly, her main job for the next seven weeks is to grow as much as possible, and I can tell. I can absolutely believe there’s something the size of a ferret in there:

 

Overall: We’re slowly settling into the new house and the new state and Lady’s new job. It’s been a whirlwind of unpacking and visits and also a lot of time at home, alone, checking email (see: job) so I’ve been all over the map emotionally. As such, I can’t tell how much of the exhaustion and fatigue and sadness is just because I’ve been hit with a truck called Life and how much of it is hormones.

Whether or not it’s pregnancy related or recovery, I’m now 33 weeks and I’m turning 30 next week and I’ve decided that I’m allowed to be selfish for the next 4+ weeks and take care of myself. My motto is “little things help” so I went for a small walk and enjoyed the lovely weather and then I made myself french toast, took a hot shower, and put on a happy-smelling BPAL before work this morning.

Also I feel like I’ve done a 180 on baby prep and baby things. We are now looking at our stash and narrowing down what we need to get in the coming weeks. I’ve started researching hospital bags. Lady and I are talking a lot about what comes after, the first week and beyond. I am so big and it’s become very obvious to both of us that this is happening and it is happening Soon. 36 weeks and onwards seems to be the main labor window, so I want to be ready in case that happens to us. At the same time, I don’t want to be surprised/annoyed if we pass 41 weeks, so I’m still mentally prepping for October.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Feeling exhausted just from sitting in a chair. Like, rolling, muscular exhaustion. It’s bizarre. Of course at the same time I’m waking up 2+ times a night to pee, or because I rolled onto my back (again) and feel nauseated. I’m caving and buying a pregnancy pillow after work today because my stomach hurts and my hips hurt and we only have so many pillows in the house.

My appetite has decreased substantially, in part because I simply can’t fit as much in my stomach. But when that first started, I’d just eat half of my meal, wait a while, and eat the second half. Now I just eat half and the other half becomes a completely separate meal. It’s probably okay because I’m sleeping more and moving less, but it’s weird.

HOT HANDS AND FEET. Ugh, this is awful. They’re feverishly hot and I have to be at 70 degrees or cooler to be comfortable. Of course this symptom decided to pop up right when we moved and had no a/c, so relief has been seldom. We got a portable a/c unit, but it only does so much (see: does not get the temp down below 70). Freezer packs have become my dear friends. But even a/c in stores and the doctor’s office has been insufficient: I was sweating by the end of all my appointments.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: The freaking motherload of cloth diapers and a ton of cold-weather baby clothes from my sis-in-law (bless her). She lives in Minnesota, so I feel a lot more comfortable heading into our first Winter with Baby here in Michigan between her advice and clothes.

We also got a little bit of baby-storage-furniture to round out the nursery corner. The bedroom still has the most boxes so the nursery is nowhere near done, but it’s calming to see that she has her own space and is beginning to amass the things she needs.

 

Exercise: Little more this week. Some walking and some light lifting. More than 20min of walking now hurts my hips and tires me out, but if I rest for a little bit I can keep going. I ordered more lifting plates as a birthday present to myself so I’ll be back to deadlifting when those come in and I couldn’t be more excited.🙂

 

Appointments: One last week that got me onto the new ob’s schedule. Everything’s still looking good, baby’s measuring right on target, and I left with a breast bump prescription. I had to google what to do with it, because I’m 100% sure I can’t just drop it off at Target. I still need to call my insurance and see what their policy is. We’re in a weird position where we’re going to be switching to new insurance in the next month and resetting our deductible, so if I can get the prescription filled now, that would be best. But, we’ll see.

Next appointment is for 34 weeks, the day after my birthday. Woo.

 

Dr Lady: Overwhelmed as well. It’s hard starting a new job! Also a little bit full of trepidation after we spent the weekend with her sister and her husband and two small children. One four-year-old who was VERY EXCITED to see us and one toddler who was VERY EXCITED about the cats and then VERY DISTRAUGHT when she couldn’t catch them. There was a lot of screaming and crying and yelling and Lady and I were both left wondering if we could actually do this parenting thing by the end of it. o.o

 

Progress Photo:

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