Week 33: Getting Uncomfortable

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), wth mornings (-2 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis), Awkward Maneuvering (-2 Dex)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-1 Dex)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 17.20″ crown to heel
Weight: 4.23 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr has developed an immune system! She’s also getting better at opening her eyes when she’s awake and closing them to sleep. I guess she wasn’t doing this before?

Honestly, her main job for the next seven weeks is to grow as much as possible, and I can tell. I can absolutely believe there’s something the size of a ferret in there:

 

Overall: We’re slowly settling into the new house and the new state and Lady’s new job. It’s been a whirlwind of unpacking and visits and also a lot of time at home, alone, checking email (see: job) so I’ve been all over the map emotionally. As such, I can’t tell how much of the exhaustion and fatigue and sadness is just because I’ve been hit with a truck called Life and how much of it is hormones.

Whether or not it’s pregnancy related or recovery, I’m now 33 weeks and I’m turning 30 next week and I’ve decided that I’m allowed to be selfish for the next 4+ weeks and take care of myself. My motto is “little things help” so I went for a small walk and enjoyed the lovely weather and then I made myself french toast, took a hot shower, and put on a happy-smelling BPAL before work this morning.

Also I feel like I’ve done a 180 on baby prep and baby things. We are now looking at our stash and narrowing down what we need to get in the coming weeks. I’ve started researching hospital bags. Lady and I are talking a lot about what comes after, the first week and beyond. I am so big and it’s become very obvious to both of us that this is happening and it is happening Soon. 36 weeks and onwards seems to be the main labor window, so I want to be ready in case that happens to us. At the same time, I don’t want to be surprised/annoyed if we pass 41 weeks, so I’m still mentally prepping for October.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Feeling exhausted just from sitting in a chair. Like, rolling, muscular exhaustion. It’s bizarre. Of course at the same time I’m waking up 2+ times a night to pee, or because I rolled onto my back (again) and feel nauseated. I’m caving and buying a pregnancy pillow after work today because my stomach hurts and my hips hurt and we only have so many pillows in the house.

My appetite has decreased substantially, in part because I simply can’t fit as much in my stomach. But when that first started, I’d just eat half of my meal, wait a while, and eat the second half. Now I just eat half and the other half becomes a completely separate meal. It’s probably okay because I’m sleeping more and moving less, but it’s weird.

HOT HANDS AND FEET. Ugh, this is awful. They’re feverishly hot and I have to be at 70 degrees or cooler to be comfortable. Of course this symptom decided to pop up right when we moved and had no a/c, so relief has been seldom. We got a portable a/c unit, but it only does so much (see: does not get the temp down below 70). Freezer packs have become my dear friends. But even a/c in stores and the doctor’s office has been insufficient: I was sweating by the end of all my appointments.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: The freaking motherload of cloth diapers and a ton of cold-weather baby clothes from my sis-in-law (bless her). She lives in Minnesota, so I feel a lot more comfortable heading into our first Winter with Baby here in Michigan between her advice and clothes.

We also got a little bit of baby-storage-furniture to round out the nursery corner. The bedroom still has the most boxes so the nursery is nowhere near done, but it’s calming to see that she has her own space and is beginning to amass the things she needs.

 

Exercise: Little more this week. Some walking and some light lifting. More than 20min of walking now hurts my hips and tires me out, but if I rest for a little bit I can keep going. I ordered more lifting plates as a birthday present to myself so I’ll be back to deadlifting when those come in and I couldn’t be more excited.🙂

 

Appointments: One last week that got me onto the new ob’s schedule. Everything’s still looking good, baby’s measuring right on target, and I left with a breast bump prescription. I had to google what to do with it, because I’m 100% sure I can’t just drop it off at Target. I still need to call my insurance and see what their policy is. We’re in a weird position where we’re going to be switching to new insurance in the next month and resetting our deductible, so if I can get the prescription filled now, that would be best. But, we’ll see.

Next appointment is for 34 weeks, the day after my birthday. Woo.

 

Dr Lady: Overwhelmed as well. It’s hard starting a new job! Also a little bit full of trepidation after we spent the weekend with her sister and her husband and two small children. One four-year-old who was VERY EXCITED to see us and one toddler who was VERY EXCITED about the cats and then VERY DISTRAUGHT when she couldn’t catch them. There was a lot of screaming and crying and yelling and Lady and I were both left wondering if we could actually do this parenting thing by the end of it. o.o

 

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Week 32: Eight Weeks Left?!

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, Braxton Hicks

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), General aches and pains (-1 Con), wth mornings (-2 con), bad sleep (-1 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Str), Ingrown Toenail (-2 Dex)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 16.69″ crown to heel
Weight: 3.75 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is growing. Honestly, that’s her only job right now. Apparently she also has finger- and toenails and could be growing real hair.

This week she’s the size of a pomelo or a naked tail armadillo (not to be confused with the kind of armadillo found in the South ’cause those cluckers are HUGE):

 

Overall: I am so glad we’re moved in, most of the boxes are unpacked, we have a portable a/c unit, we had help with all of the above, and now I can finally (FINALLY) focus on Lady Jr and what’s coming up in October. Because OMG it’s going to be so soon. I hopped on Amazon to update our registry (because family is asking) and saw the little “8 weeks left!” countdown and just – what. What. What. How when why what.

My new OB asked whether I had a birth plan yet, whether we had picked out a pediatrician, whether we had toured the hospital, and I was just like, no, no, nope! And here I was so proud of myself for getting an OB set up here as soon as I did. o.o But now I’m looking for a pediatrician and we have a reservation for a tour (at the end of September – hahahaha). All the birth classes are full until the end of September as well, so no point in wasting our time/money there. Oh well – that’s what youtube is for, right?

On the bright side, Lady Jr’s crib/nursery/corner is coming together. Now that we’re unpacking, I can finally see exactly what we have and next I’ll update our list of what we need. My sister-in-law is coming next weekend with all the newborn stuff she still has, so I’m going to wait until after that to really needle down, but yeah.

Some days I can’t believe we’ve made it this far with no problems. Some days I can’t believe how much time we have left.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Actual, for real Braxton Hicks contractions started this week. They’re completely painless, just uncomfortable if I’m leaning forward when they start. My whole abdomen becomes a big ball of tightness, which weirded me out at first until I realized what it was.

Also heart burn has progressed to heart… leakage. It’s kind of nasty and I have to be super careful about eating too much or lying down after eating. If I eat half of what I usually do, it’s fine, but it’s hard to remember to stop that early when my stomach still feels the same size.

Last but not least: I am so weak and so easily winded. Walking is more than enough exercise. I don’t know how much of this is because of the move (see: no time for strength training or the gym) or just general progress in pregnancy. I’m going to make a habit of lifting – albeit much lighter – on my lunch breaks for the coming weeks. We’ll see how that goes.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: An Amish gliding chair (bless you Craigslist) for nursing. Washer/dryer for diapers.

 

Exercise: Unpacking and running around like a ninny. That counts, right?

 

Appointments: One last week to meet my new doc and one this week so they can get me on their 32-34-36 week schedule. The doc measured my abdomen, i.e. Lady Jr, and they gave me a TDAP shot and doublechecked all of my vitals. So far, everything looks normal and low risk.

I learned more about the hospital I would be giving birth at and was warned that they are militantly pro-breastfeeding. Oy. As I’ve mentioned before (I think), I’m planning to breastfeed, but I also know that with PCOS and a history of severe depression, there is a real possibility I will have trouble and/or be unable to breastfeed, and therefore I would prefer a supportive environment over one where they will guilt and shame me when I’ll already be emotionally vulnerable.:/

 

Dr Lady: Hard to tell because she’s been sitting around at a conference all week and her toenail is acting up. Just about this time last year she dropped something heavy on her big toe, which eventually lost its toenail, and which had grown back quite fine up until a few weeks ago. Now it’s decided to start growing inward, so we need to find her a doctor, stat. Sigh, one of these days she won’t have foot problems.

But she started her new lab job this week and she’s getting very excited about meeting Lady Jr. She and mom apparently had a conversation last week about how in love she was already with Lady Jr. I guess getting kicked in the butt repeatedly helps with bonding.🙂

(New!) Comments from Strangers: When we picked up the washer/dryer, the lady selling it to us asked when I was due, then whether it was a boy or girl. I never once mentioned that I was pregnant before that. I also got a long rambling monologue from a worker in a thrift store about how I needed to get a bigger chair than the one I was lounging in because I was only going to get bigger and baby needed room.

Progress Photo:

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Homeownership

…is a lot like renting. Except you can actually change the things you don’t like. And no one is going to come fix your garbage disposal.

The first few days were mighty rough. Our stuff was all in a POD on a truck somewhere, including our mattress, and the house doesn’t have a/c, so we slept on an air mattress with all the windows open and a fan. Unfortunately, Michigan saw a heat wave this week, which I initially laughed at because come on, upper 80s is a heat wave? But joke’s on me because when there’s no a/c and you can’t escape that 85 degree heat, everything just starts to suck. The worst part is when everything you touch feels warm, even the cups in the kitchen.

We caved on Thursday and bought a portable a/c unit that we could move from room to room as needed, but it’s a bandaid fix. It works quite well in a small space or when you sit right next to it, but try to go to another room and it’s just as hot. I don’t know where all this heat is even coming from. Must be all the people in the house.

Which is the plus for the week. My parents came out to help us move in, since we don’t really know anyone here and Lady’s foot is still healing and I just can’t carry any boxes/furniture (front carry is officially out for the duration of this pregnancy). And we couldn’t have done it without them. Especially not with Lady at a conference and me trying to juggle work during the second half of the week.

Side note: if you can avoid going back to work before you’ve even unpacked one box, DO IT.

Dad has been fixing all the little things and mom has been helping unpack and bless them for their patience with an overheated pregnant lady. We now have a functional (?) washer/dryer, a vapor barrier across the crawlspace (to keep radon levels down), a cat barrier for the crawlspace (because they would get in there and never, ever leave), new locks on all the doors, large pieces of furniture, and food – they keep bringing food and I don’t know where I’d be without food showing up randomly because I’m too overwhelmed and tired to go out and find it on my own.

Which makes me wonder how I’m going to deal with a newborn. o.o

Honestly, this felt like a big trial run. We both didn’t sleep for over a week and a half (see: cats waking us up every hour or two), we both had to keep going and keep busy, no naps, uncomfortable, no time to make food or have downtime or just take care of ourselves, because there was always something that had to be done Now. Just add screaming and bodily fluids (actually…) and that sounds pretty familiar doesn’t it?

It was hard but it’s getting easier. Most of the boxes are unpacked. I know where the plates are. The cats have calmed down. The temp is slowly lowering, day by day (only 82 inside this morning! hooray!). We have a working coffee machine, we have clean clothes, we have a shower head that doesn’t try to kill us (seriously wtf). Our little pieces of decor are going up and around and this place is finally starting to feel more like a home – our home – than a bland shell.

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Week 31: Across State Lines

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 16
Int: 12
Wis: 14 13
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), General aches and pains (-1 Con), wth mornings (-1 con), bad sleep (-1 con), Anxiety (-1 Wis)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 16.18″ crown to heel
Weight: 3.31 lb

Str: 6
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is over 3 pounds (!) and heading into a growth spurt (!!). It boggles my mind that she’s come all this way from a bundle of cells weighing less than a microgram.

Somehow, this week there’s a critter the size of an otter (!!!) in there (I’m 900% certain Ovia is drunk at this point):

 

Overall: I had a bit of a scare this week, but everything is fine now. During all the travel and lack of sleep and stress – and most probably dehydration – Lady Jr’s movements diminished a lot. I noticed it on the second day and by the fourth/fifth, I was lying awake at night willing her to move so that I would stop panicking. It even got so bad that I had Dr Lady consult Dr Google for me, and then we sat and counted kicks together. Even though we reached the movement threshold, they were just so much less.

But then we arrived in Michigan and I felt my whole body just relax and I was able to drink more water and suddenly Lady Jr was back to her normal antics. I cried, I was so relieved. The last thing I wanted to do was go to a hospital in a strange state and have them laugh at my anxiety and fear, but the last last thing I wanted was to lose Lady Jr. Not now, not when we’ve come so far, not when we’ve let ourselves become so vulnerable, finally accepting that this will happen, not might. I tell anyone who asks that we haven’t decided yet, but she’s had a full name since we pretty much found out she was a girl. That scare really showed me that she’s ours and no matter what, even though we haven’t even met her yet, she’s irreplaceable.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: It’s so hard to fall asleep and so hard to wake up, which has been compounded by certain cats who like to jump on us in the middle of the night. Or meow. Or jump and meow. Or go tearing across the room after a pixie. How does anyone sleep with cats??

My stomach is definitely smaller than it used to be, which I have to constantly remind myself because I have no warning between ravenously hungry and uncomfortably full.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: A box of random plastic toys and some board books from an aunt in Nebraska. I don’t know if we’ll keep all the toys , but the books c an stay.

Also also as of closing at noon today, officially: A HOUSE.

 

Exercise: Walking, whenever I could during travel, and on the treadmill while we’re staying in a hotel. I am so looking forward to our POD arriving and getting my weights out. I’m also going to see about joining the nearby Crossfit gym in the next week. I still have a labor to train for.

 

Appointments: One tomorrow with the new doc which is just so some sort of intake appointment, I think, because then I have another one on Thursday with the actual OB.

 

Dr Lady: A little bit of regression, but we both think this is because of the move and sitting in a car relatively stationary for a week straight. She’s still able to walk 30min, though, so we’re headed in the right direction still.

 

Progress Photo:

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Goodbye Arizona, Hello Michigan

We’re here. We’re in Michigan.

Five days, four nights, three hotels, two cats, and 2109 miles later. I am sore and tired and even though the cats are currently quiet, I can still hear yowling, but we’re here. We saw family in Nebraska and stayed with family in Illinois and now my parents are heading this way to help us unpack the moving POD.

We’re in a hotel for the next few nights because we don’t actually close and get keys to the house until Monday. Tomorrow the cats will stay in the hotel while we go out and explore the city and/or find a u-pick fruit place. We passed a lot of them to the south and I am kind of a little bit excited. AZ just doesn’t have that.

I don’t think it’s really settled in yet that this was more than just really bad vacation, that we’re out of AZ for good and on to other things. I am starting to feel a little less stressed and a little more relieved. I’m really looking forward to spending some quiet time with just my wife and Lady Jr and finally, finally shifting our focus to getting ready for her. I feel like I’ve been neglecting her these past few weeks in the sheer chaos of the move.

Now it’s time to go to bed at 6.30pm because wow, am I exhausted.

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Week 30: Get Me Outta Here

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 15
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), General aches and pains (-2 Con), wth mornings (-1 con), bad sleep (-1 con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Recovering from Tendonsis (-1 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 15.71″ crown to heel
Weight: 2.91 lb

Str: 5
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr is a chunky monkey and is taking up more and more space, which means less room for wiggles. Important milestones this week: Lady Jr’s bone marrow is making red blood cells. Apparently her spleen was doing this before? Weird.

This week, she’s either the size of a platypus or a cantaloupe, neither of which make much sense, honestly:

 

Overall: I knew moving at 30 weeks while my wife’s foot was still healing would be tough, but knowing doesn’t necessarily make it any less tough. I am sore and cranky and overly emotional, but the POD has been picked up and the last room painted and in a few hours we’ll be on the road. I had two friends promise to help us pack the POD who fell through (for mostly good reasons) whom I’m trying to forgive, but because of that everything was 200% harder and 1000% more stressful than it needed to be. I don’t know if I was more dehydrated from the moving (do NOT move when it’s 100+ degrees people!) or the ugly sobbing, but gatorade cured both.

I never, ever want to do that again. Thankfully, I can’t foresee this particular shitstorm of events reoccurring. And if, for some crazy reason, there’s a conference and a pregnant lady and a bung foot and a very short period in which to pack and get everything moved, I will definitely hire movers. Fuck, I might just do that next time around anyway because I. Am. Done.

Enough whining. It’s over and now we’ve got a week of slowly driving across the country in which to recover. Now excuse me while I find the tissues for the inevitable crying when we leave.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: I have cried in some way every single day this last week and this weekend turned me into an anxious, sobbing mess. I probably would have cried at some point this weekend normally, but this was excessive and I could tell there was more than just emotions behind it. Yay, hormones. Or as I’ve recently discovered coined online: hormotional.

Leaky boobs is another one. I just have to avoid hot showers at night, though, unless I want to wake up with a crust.

And omg the heartburn is just getting worse. I’m pretty sure this is because my stomach is super squished, because I can’t eat nearly as much as I used to. My appetite is definitely diminished, but this could be from all the stress and anxiety.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: Nada. Although I had some ice cream in her name this weekend.

 

Exercise: One lifting session, some walking, and all the moving. All of it. I’m pretty sure this weekend counts as some kind of marathon. Which is good because now I’m going to sit in a car for a week.

 

Appointments: I have one in a week with the new OB, right after we get there.

 

Dr Lady: Omg guys she went for a 30min walk without the boot or the walker and I cried. She is steadily improving week to week and it’s amazing and I just have to not get too excited and take her for a run.🙂 She helped move quite a bit on Sunday – probably more than she should have – but the next day she was only sore, not in stabbing, miserable pain. She can stand for long periods and easily did half of the painting, whereas a month ago when we painted the living room/kitchen, she frequently had to sit and ice her foot and was still wearing the boot.

I sold the knee walker last week and we unceremoniously tossed the boot into the trash. Good riddance!

 

Progress Photo 29 weeks 6 days:

No official photo this week because everything was 100% insane and the chalkboard got painted over:

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Last Days

Our house is literally boxes and chaos. Half filled and neatly taped, half strewn around taking up space, random things on every horizontal surface. And me thinking, we still have to eat the chicken and we can’t pack the cleaning supplies yet and will we have enough boxes and there’s no way we can fit what we need in the car and still need another cat carrier and there’s just so much stuff and who needs sleep?? and me – oh god I need sleep –

Breathe.

Have some water.

Eight years ago we shoved everything we owned into her car and we drove across the country.

Six years ago we shoved everything we owned into a rental truck and we drove across the country.

Now we’re shoving (almost) everything we own into a POD and driving across the country.

We’ve been here before and we’ll be here again and we can do this.

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