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Not a Cold

It’s roseola! Woooooo.

I noticed baby had a funky rash all over her torso this morning, but her fever was gone and she seemed more like her usual self, so I sent her to daycare. Daycare called about an hour later and to say the rash was up under her chin and down on her legs, too. I mentioned that she’d had a fever and they said those two things seem to go together a lot and then said they’d keep an eye on it.

A quick google later and I have an exact match: roseola. So it’s *not* a cold. I was right. I mean, yes, it can be considered a respiratory virus, so maybe it falls under the cold umbrella, but it is not “just” a cold.

Anyway, apparently the tell-tale signage is that a mild rash will break out as soon as the fever goes away, which is what has happened. She should have stopped being contagious once her fever went away, so at least I don’t feel too guilty about leaving her at daycare. I just… there’s really nothing you can do for a virus except rest, and they’re doing a better job of getting her naps in today than all of last week, so. And after taking part of Monday and all of yesterday off, I’m kind of swamped with work.

And tired, but that’s a given. Aside from a 2 hour screamfest last night, Lady Jr (mostly) slept all right. I still don’t know what to do when she gets going like that. We cuddle, we nurse, we give her tylenol, gas drops, change her diaper, hold her, put her down, check her temp, repeat, repeat, repeat – but she’s inconsolable until either the tylenol kicks in or she wears herself out. This seems to happen with every cold and I suspect it’s a sore throat but she screams like she’s dying and it’s just so intense. But then she falls asleep and morning comes and everything is fine.

Anyway. Just thought I’d update, since cold+fever was actually not a cold. Oh doctors.

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Confession

I couldn’t do it last night. I cried off and on all day. I was too exhausted to do anything but lie down during my lunch break, even though I didn’t sleep. I went to bed when the baby went to bed. And when she cried, I held her and cried, too.

I wish I could then say that the Attachment Parenting Fairy came and blessed us with a wonderful, cuddly night. Hahahahah. No. It was worse than usual. Instead of 2ish hours in the beginning, she was up. every. single. hour.

I’m at my wit’s end. I think tonight I’m going to go sleep in the office for part of the night and maybe tomorrow, when I’m not such a mess, we can reevaluate.

Edited: It’s possible we’ve just started Leap 5. She has been a bit clingier/fussier these last few days, but I wasn’t sure if that was because of her shitty sleep. Another tell for this leap is for sleep to get worse, but, well, it didn’t have anywhere to get worse from, so I didn’t even consider it. :/

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Sleep Redux

On the one hand, Lady Jr slept ah-ma-zing Friday night. Four hour chunks the whole way through. I woke up to her cries at one point feeling refreshed and ready for the day – it was only 2.30am.

On the other hand, she was back to her old antics last night, if possibly even worse. She was fussing every 20, 30min for the first three hours and then waking up every 2 hours after that, and then tried to get up for the day before 6am.

The only difference I can see is that on Friday, she was at daycare and got little to no naps – maybe an hour? On Saturday, she was with us, and got 3ish hours worth of naps. This seems counter to everything I’ve read about infant sleep – sleep begets sleep, right? And a bad day of naps “should” beget a bad night of sleep. Yet.

So. I don’t know. Friday night was both amazing because it brought me back from the verge of sleep dep, and awful because going through another sleepless night was suddenly much worse. I’d gotten so excited. Why did I let myself get so excited.

On the positive side, I know she *can* go more than 2 hours without eating at night. She can sleep soundly and restfully and not twitch and fuss and cry constantly. Now we just need to figure out *how*.

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9 vs 17 weeks, a study in monkeys

I can’t believe I missed this. Since Lady Jr has clearly almost outgrown the monkey onesie, it’s probably a good time to look back at the first time she wore it, at 9 weeks, vs now:

babywhat

Crazy how much she’s changed! Those cheeks, zomg.

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16 Weeks

16 Weeks

A typical day for me starts between 5.30 and 6am. I pump, feed the cats, then try to write with one eye on the monitor. Lady Jr wakes up between 7 and 8am. As soon as I see her eyes pop open, I hurry in and greet her with a song and a smile.

If it’s Monday or Tuesday, we take our time and play a bit. I make breakfast while Lady Jr sits in her high chair in the kitchen, explaining everything I do – this is an egg! – or listening to NPR. She usually watches quietly with big eyes. Then we wake up Dr Lady. I feed Lady Jr while Dr Lady gets ready, sometimes we play on the floor for a bit.

By 9am it’s time for her first nap, so I read her the Nap Book, swaddle her/put her in the magic sleep suit, put on white noise, and hold her until her eyes start to flutter. Sometimes she fights. Not usually the first nap, though. I put her down before she’s completely asleep and watch her until I’m sure she’s going to stay that way. Sometimes I have to pick her up again or hold her hand or re-apply the pacifier. Sometimes not. Then I tiptoe out and write with one eye on the monitor.

If I’m lucky, she sleeps past 10am. I’ll try to settle her back to sleep if she wakes before that. Then it’s naked time on the playmat while I do some sort of household chore in the same room. Eventually she fusses and it’s food time. Or she poops all over her playmat (like today) and it’s Run Up and Down the Basement Stairs time. No matter what, after an hour and a half it’s naptime again.

This time (12ish), we go for a walk. Around the nearby lake, which takes almost exactly an hour. She stays awake for a while and I point out the trees and the birds, but inevitably by the time we actually make it to the park, she’s completely out.

When we get home, I usually leave Lady Jr in the carrier until she fusses. Then it’s back on the playmat, but she’s fed up with that quickly. We try tummy time and then lap time and then sit-up time and then we tickle and read and make faces at each other until it’s nap time again (2.30, 3pm). We repeat the book-swaddle-white noise-put down naptime routine, usually with a little more fussing. I try to write with one eye on the monitor, but this late in the day she’s wiggly and fussy and I’m back in there settling her down before I know it. This time I hold her for 20, 25min while reading news on my phone.

She’s up again by 4, 4.30pm and then it’s the last leg of the day. At this point she’s only happy doing something for a few minutes, so I have to switch it up constantly. Around 6pm we start the bedtime routine. This involves wiping her off with a warm washcloth and playing with her toes (which she tries to eat). She gets fresh clothes and a diaper, then I feed her one last time, we read her a book, and then we take her into the bedroom for one last swaddle-white noise-hold-put down. Screaming is most likely at this point, but it only lasts a few minutes. We just pick her up again if she fusses until her eyes start fluttering.

And then it’s quiet time for the parents. I like to try to write or watch something stupid, but I need to start reading again. Until 8ish, when Lady Jr usually wakes up enough that she needs some help getting back to sleep. But then I just usually go to bed at 8. Especially lately, as Lady Jr likes waking up every 1.5, 2 hours at night. Thankfully, she goes right back to sleep with a pacifier and someone holding her hand, but I miss the 4, 5 hour stretches she used to do.

That’s life with a 16 week old. Not so shabby.

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Sleep regression?

Over the weekend Lady Jr did this weird thing where instead of falling asleep at 7pm and staying asleep, she woke up every 30min and cried for most of the night. I chalked it up to her parents being sick and stressed.

But then she did it again last night – we did the whole bedtime routine, she went down fine, but then up 30min later. Then again 30min later. This time it only lasted until midnight, but wtf?

She *is* 3.5 months, so it’s possible this is the sleep regression, but naps are still fine. Idk. Advice? Do we just have to live with this for the next few weeks or is this something else?

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First Illness

Not Lady Jr.

Us.

And oh god it sucks.

I think we’ve narrowed the culprit down to food poisoning. I thought it was mastitis – actually, it was probably mastitis AND food poisoning – until Lady started throwing up last night in much the same way I had. Turns out it was the mushroom beef soup. Weird, because she was okay with it the first night, but it must have been the meat. There were two packets, so one of them was bad.

Anyway. Food poisoning. Would not recommend.

Thankfully Lady Jr was in daycare on Friday, while I spent the whole day in bed, intermittently vomiting. Then Lady was home to help on Saturday while I was recovering. But then Lady ate the soup and nobody slept last night so we’re back to square one.

Speaking of no sleep, I suspect we’re entering / have entered another sleep regression. Lady Jr’s sleep went from pretty typically getting a chunk of 5-6 hours a night to waking up every 2.5/3 hours and taking a while to get back to sleep. Last night was the worst so far, I was up for a solid two hours at midnight trying to get her back to sleep while Lady was throwing up. Yeah. Glorious.

Lady Jr’s naps are mostly okay, though, so I don’t know. I kind of hope this is the sleep regression, because that means we can fix this.

…just maybe when everyone is feeling better.

Tips on taking care of a baby when both parents are out of commission are appreciated. ❤

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