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Week 26: Farewell Second Trimester

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +??
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given, Morning Mania

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str),  General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 14
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-1 Dex, -3 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 14.02″ crown to heel
Weight: 1.68 lb

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: Hiccups

Lady Jr can open her eyes! That’s a little creepy. What is she looking at in there? o.o

Although the animal comparisons are increasingly meaningless (she’s not so much growing in length as she is in weight these days), considering the above, the slow loris is quite apt this week:

 

 

 

Overall: It’s July! Holy shit! I’m 26 weeks! Double holy shit!

As with the transition from first to second trimester, no one agrees about the transition from second to third. I’ve seen anywhere from 26 weeks to 28 as the start of the third, but simple math (40/3 = 13.33, x2 = 26.66) tells me the third trimester starts at 27 weeks, so that’s what I’m going with. As with the first, I feel like I’m really getting into the swing of the second just as it ends: being visibly pregnant, having lots of energy, feeling baby move. Hopefully this means that all the hallmarks of the third – swelling, discomfort, weird cravings, aches, etc – will wait for another month or two (or three??).

Meanwhile, I feel pretty good. Physically, I’m still strong and capable of pushing myself, and I (mostly) feel better about my body. I’ve decided to stop weighing myself, though, and try to ignore the number when I go to the OB, because I am just too worried about it and even an extra pound or two than I expect pushes me into some nasty mental territory.

Mentally, I’m mostly okay, although the end-of-fiscal-year stress at work really got to me last week. But we’re trucking along with packing and getting ready for the Move and I feel confident about where we are with that. We actually are ahead enough that this weekend we could just focus on relaxing and spending time with friends, which is exactly what I needed.

This week we’re going to head to MI and (hopefully, pleasepleaseplease) find a house (or several) to offer on. Our goal is to pretty much know what our living arrangements will be in August by the end of this week. I hope that’s not too optimistic. 🙂

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Lady Jr’s been getting hiccups! At first I was like, those are some strangely rhythmic and consistent kicks, yet they’re not as strong as kicks. When they didn’t stop for 10, 20min, I realized they had to be something else. Hiccups fit the bill nicely, and since she’s supposed to start getting them around now, it makes sense.

As for me, I’ve noticed that rolling from one side to the other in bed is enough to wake me up at night. If I roll too fast, then my abdomen hurts like I’ve strained it. No more flopping around like a fish for me.

 

Things Acquired for Lady Jr: One of our close friends gifted us with a buttload of baby things this week. We now have a crib, a mattress, things to cover said mattress, some clothes – including a batman onesie – a really soft blanket, some burp cloths, and one of those breastfeeding pillows. Both of my sisters-in-law have also promised us gently used baby things, so our to-get list is dwindling quickly. What’s left is mostly diapering paraphernalia and a carseat, both of which we’re going to wait until after we move to acquire.

This has all come at the best time, inbetween dropping a hefty chunk of savings on a car and flying out to MI to house hunt. It’s very reassuring to know that we only have one more absolutely necessary, expensive baby thing to get (see: carseat). Especially after pricing out our move and finding out that having to switch to new insurance right before birth means we get to pay a new deductible (woohoo).

 

Exercise: Two lifting sessions, one elliptical cardio, and one swim. I haven’t been walking as much because it’s so icky out, even in the morning. July is the time of year here when it’s frequently 80-90 degrees and humid at sunrise and my tolerance for sticky heat has apparently plummeted. It’s not a good excuse, so I now have a swim cap and goggles and will be hitting up the pool first thing while Dr Lady’s swimsuit still fits. I forgot how much I love swimming – it’s just the before and after parts that I dislike.

 

Dr Lady: She’s feeling the time crunch. Between our house-hunting trip this week, a wedding in a few more weeks, and her conference at the end of July, she only has one and a half weeks left to get as much Science done as possible. So: a little stressed.

But her foot is still getting better. She’s been encouraged to start using the knee walker less and less and has even done a few short stints in just a shoe, no boot. Which is good, because her boot is starting to fall apart and it seems silly to get a new one when she might only need to wear it for another week or two.

 

Progress Photo, 25w6d:

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Week 25: Plateau

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +19
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given, Morning Mania

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str),  General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 11
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-1 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 13.62″ crown to heel
Weight: 1.46 lb

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick, Roll
Diseases/Curses: None

Lady Jr is growing hair and filling out her cheeks with fat. Which is probably why she looks so much like a prairie dog this week:

 

 

 

Overall: I’m feeling almost normal overall, although being on my feet, painting all day Saturday really wore me out. I’m not noticeably any bigger, Lady Jr’s wiggles aren’t any stronger, nothing is really different this week. Feels like I’m gazing out across a grassy plateau.

I’m going through another weight-worrying phase. I went into this whole pregnancy thing expecting not to gain more than 25 pounds because that was what I had read was “healthy,” and of course now I’m just shy of 20 gained and nowhere near done. It’s really, really hard for me to just accept that number. And I’d just stop weighing myself, but I don’t want to be surprised at the doctor.

I keep wondering if there is something I’m not doing right, if I need to exercise more or actively curtail my diet or or or  –  . Problem is, I’m almost constantly hungry and constantly craving sugar. I can try to avoid sugar, or eat fruit instead, but the cravings for pastries and bread and ice cream wear me down. I can also exercise more, but then I’m even hungrier. Then I try to just go with the flow and then I remember I’m at high risk for GD and freak out again. Gah.

I knew gaining weight would be mentally hard for me. I know I’m still well within the bounds of normal. But that doesn’t stop me from worry-worry-worrying. Blrgh.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Nada.

 

Things Bought for Lady Jr: We acquired our new car on Friday! It’s a sleek Subaru Crosstrek and now we’re very poor. But omg the doors lock and the CD player works and there are heated seats and the sun visors don’t keep falling down and Dr Lady can fit her scooter in the trunk and it doesn’t shudder and it just feels like it’s going to run and run for years. I feel a lot more confident about driving across the country in this car and even more confident that we’ll have lots of adventures in it and go on road trips and camping and be able to drive through snow.

I’ve always seen myself as the kind of person who would keep buying used cars off Craigslist for cheap, so it’s been a bit of a mental shift to go through this new-car-acquiring process, but I’m glad we did. I’m ready to be done worrying about whether or not our car will still run in 6 months or a year and what kind of expensive parts need to be replaced next.

 


Exercise: Cardio on the elliptical, not nearly enough walking, two weightlifting sessions, and a full day of painting on Saturday. Yet it still never feels like enough.

 

Dr Lady: She insisted on leaving her knee walker at home today and has been out of her boot more than not this past weekend. There’s still some pain, but it sounds like it’s a lot less than what she would have incurred a month or two ago. So it’s healing. Not quite enough to where we can confidently leave the knee walker behind next week, but hopefully enough so we can sell the walker before we move.

Otherwise she’s doing well, if a bit ready for it to be August already. Aren’t we all. 🙂

Progress Photo, 24w6d:

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Week 24: Calm Before the Storm

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +17
Shoe Size: 10 10.5
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given, Morning Mania

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str),  General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-2 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 11.81″ crown to heel
Weight: 1.32 lb

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick
Diseases/Curses: None

Lady Jr is growing her muscles and bones, so she can become big and strong like her moms.

She’s about the size of an Atlantic puffin:

 

 

 

Overall: I realized last night as I was reminding Dr Lady that today would mark week 24 that we’ve only got a few more weeks left in the second trimester. And of course a few days earlier I was removing something from our registry list (bless my friends, for they have cribs) when I noticed the little countdown: 16 weeks. Gah! I remember when I was 16 weeks and October felt like a dream.

October still feels pretty distant, but as soon as July hits everything is going to be nonstop until September, so I’m just chilling right now, basking in the second trimester glow, and not at all wishing for time to speed up (okay sometimes a little – I want to meet this girl!).

So yeah, that second tri glow. I feel pretty good. No weird cravings, no awful nausea, no constant pain. I still can’t walk more than 10min without getting a round ligament stitch, but who wants to be outside right now? (See: that post about baking cookies in my car)

Lady Jr also reaches a viability milestone this week, so a little less worry about her is good. Apparently her lungs could actually work and she would have a 50% chance at survival.

I reached a milestone, too: the first thing one of my bosses said on Thursday when she saw me was, “You look pregnant!” (She knows I am, btw). The other boss later asked me if I’d had anyone asking when I was due yet, which is his roundabout way of saying what the first boss said. Thankfully the answer to that is no, but it’s only a matter of time if I’m getting pretty visible. None of my clothes even remotely hide the bump anymore.

 

Mood: Okay. Well, except for the surges of rage and grief, but that was to be expected after what happened in Orlando. I do wonder whether or not that tragedy would have affected me so hard if I wasn’t pregnant, then I remember all the people I know who were personally affected and the answer is yes, yes it would have.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: So I’ve been avoiding sit-ups for a while now, because they’re just awkward, but I tried to do one (or two) this week instead of rolling to the side like usual and OW. There is a whole band of muscle at the base of my abdomen that was having NONE of that. Okay, so: sit-ups are officially out.

 

Exercise: I tried to lift this week, but the gym was closed due to an oil spill. O.o Which kind of makes me wonder wth they were doing with oil. Instead I walked a lot and did some more bike work and tried out one of Fit to Be Pregnant’s workouts and had some fun. I think I’ll replace the bike HIITs with those for now, because they’re way more interesting.

 

Dr Lady: She’s doing well. Podiatrist appointment today to see where her foot is at, but she’s using the boot less and less and doesn’t use the kneewalker to get around the house as much. Slow and steady progress. Now I’m just worried she might overdo it and put herself back a few weeks.

 

Progress Photo, 23w6d:

 

 

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Week 23: Baby Girl

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +16
Shoe Size: 10
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given, Morning Mania

Diseases/Curses: Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str),  General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-2 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 11.38″ crown to heel
Weight: 1.1 lb

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick
Diseases/Curses: None

Lady Jr is a girl!! Now we can use pronouns!!!

Lady Jr’s anatomy scan was last week and she has all her limbs and organs in the right place. Mostly, she just needs to grow into proper bebe size, which is what she’s doing.

This week, chinchilla. Next week, the world:

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Overall: The extra energy is really, really nice. We are Getting Things Done. We put a deposit down on a new car (expected in two weeks [or sooner {please}]), we perused and made notes on 40 properties our realtor sent us, we cleared out the office, we packed 10 boxes, we got rid of a trunkload of stuff, we made the week’s food, we filled out the registry, I found some decent pregnancy/parenthood/newborn books at the secondhand bookstore and made some headway, and we both went to work every day.

Yet, of course, there are always more things to do. I haven’t written in over a month and I can’t seem to find the time or energy to overcome this inertia. Tomorrow, tomorrow, always tomorrow.

Harder still when I’m so wrapped up in kicks and wiggles and rolls and dreaming about this little bebe. I am still surprised by how much knowing her birth gender has helped both me and Dr Lady fully realize that This is a Thing and in a few short months, This Thing will be coming home with us. Hence the book acquisitions and a sudden need to understand all things postpartum and newborns – topics I’ve been avoiding. Our impending parenthood is a lot more Real and I especially feel like I can finally let go of the sense that Planning might jinx things.

As of this week, Lady Jr has a 20-35% chance of survival outside the uterus. Next week, it’ll be 50-70%. In my head, she’s no longer just a fetus but an actual baby. I’ve even been using the word baby, which I’d been avoiding for months. We’ve been playing with names for her and every time I use a name, a real name, for her she becomes that much more human.

 

Mood: So much happier. I’ve still got a bit of fight in me, for sure, but I’ve been laughing more and crying at the thought of all the things I want to show Lady Jr.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Uuuugh round ligament paaain. We’re at about 10min of walking before it begins to hurt and now I get stabbing sensations around the same area if I’ve been too active. Looking into ways to mitigate this, possibly through belly support. Any tips are appreciated.

 

Exercise: Lifted twice, walked a lot, despite the pain. I did a HIIT workout on a stationary bike and plan to do that again this week. I’ve also been looking at more cardio-like lifting workouts because just sitting on a bike for 20 min is boring.

New this week: prenatal yoga. I tried out a class on Saturday and I liked it enough that I plan on going back next week. It’s mostly stretching, but I need to work on mindfulness and breathing. Also it’s just nice to be around some other pregnant ladies.

 

Dr Lady: Doing good. Still getting better, just slowly. She was told to start walking on the foot for 5-10min a day. I’ve begun to realize that even if she can walk by the time we move, she still shouldn’t be putting much weight on the foot. We’ll definitely need help moving. 😦

 

Progress Photo, 22w6d:

Is it just me or has the bump stayed about the same these last three weeks??

 

Bonus! pic of Dr Lady helping draw this week’s chalkboard:

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Week 22: FIGHT ME

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +14
Shoe Size: 10
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 17
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given, Morning Mania

Diseases/Curses: Minor Fatigue (-1 Con), Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str),  General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 10
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-2 Dex, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 10.94″ crown to heel
Weight: 15.17 oz

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick
Diseases/Curses: None

Lady Jr: So. Much. Wiggling!

Bébé is very proficient at kicking, but now needs to learn about touch. They also now have eyelashes and eyebrows. Honestly, looking more human every day!

Lady Jr is almost 11″ long and about the size of a guinea pig:

 

 

Overall: Wow. Hi energy, hi mania. I’m not sure whether to blame this on pregnancy or not, because honestly this is how I used to feel 90% of the time before depression knocked me down. I feel like my old (old) self and it’s amazing.

Plus! I’ve been able to eat veggies happily again. Greens for breakfast, greens for lunch, lots of fruit, some avocado, and only minimal carb cravings. It’s like someone flipped a switch in my brain and now I can – and want to – eat all the food I used to.

Good timing, because we’re looking for a car and a house right now all while trying to consolidate our belongings and begin packing. We managed to shove a LOT into this weekend, including test-driving, thoroughly cleaning the kitchen, regular chores, cooking, virtually hunting for houses, chatting with a potential realtor, seeing our friends, making a cake, and packing up a few more boxes.

I just really really hope this isn’t temporary.

 

Mood: Surprisingly good! I’m feeling optimistic and weirdly cheerful and energetic. But more manic than outright happy, because I’m still easily annoyed/aggravated and can go from the-world-is-wonderful to I WILL FIGHT YOU in less than a second. Honestly, if kick-boxing weren’t such a high-contact sport (that I’d never done before) I would be all about that right now.

 

Clothes: The maternity clothes I got are fitting better and better, now that I have more pudge to fill them.

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Bleeding gums. I thought I’d made it this far without them, and then I got a mouthful of pink foam. Yuck. F– would not recommend.

Also round ligament pain. For real this time. That starts to hurt if I’ve been walking for more than 40min or on my feet for over an hour, which is very annoying and limiting. I have a hike planned for next weekend but… we’ll have to see.

 

Exercise: Walking. Lifting. I need to do more cardio, it’s just apparently a higher barrier when it’s so hot out and therefore I have to stay inside/go to the gym. But I’ll do it this week!

 

Dr Lady: That woman was walking around on her bare foot this weekend without pain – well, at first. Which is amazing, but also she shouldn’t be doing that yet because we don’t want her to reinjure.

I’ve been updating her every time bébé is active and she’s been going around telling everyone about how Lady Jr kicked her butt and is super fierce, so I think we’re doing a good job of keeping her involved. 🙂

 

Progress Photo, 21w6d:

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Week 21: DON’T STOP WON’T STOP

Player One
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Player Two
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Level 29 Human Bard/Fighter
Height: 5’9″
Weight: 164 +13
Shoe Size: 10
Bra Size: 34A 36B 36C/38B

Str: 18 16
Dex: 12
Con: 19 16
Int: 12
Wis: 14
Cha: 18

Highest skills: Bluff, Gather Rumors, Knowledge (Folklore) (History), Athletics

Feats: Natural Immunity, Iron WillRun, Nap, No Shits Given

Diseases/Curses: Minor Fatigue (-1 Con), Heavy Things Gettin’ Heavy (-2 Str), Recovering from stomach virus (-2 Con), General aches and pains (-2 Con)

Level 30 Human Warlock/Ranger
Height: 5’8″
Weight: Redacted
Shoe Size: 11
Bra Size: 36B

Str: 17 16
Dex: 12 9
Con: 12
Int: 20
Wis: 16
Cha: 16

Highest skills: Heal, Knowledge (Science) (Arcana), Spot, Listen, Swim

Feats: Alertness, Diligent, Spell Focus

Diseases/Curses: Too Much To Do, Acute Tendonsis (-3 Dex, -1 Str), General Malaise (-1 Int, -1 Str)

Player Three

Level 0 Human NPC
Height: 10.51″ crown to heel
Weight: 12.70 oz

Str: 3
Dex: 5
Con: 10
Int: 1
Wis: 1
Cha: 14

Highest skills: Grow, Swim, Hide
Feats: Self-Sufficient, Stealthy, Heartbeat, Growth, Wiggle, Kick
Diseases/Curses: None

Lady Jr has been making their presence known through kicks and wiggles. They’re also workin’ their tastebuds, so I guess it’s time to lay off the cupcakes and pick up more broccoli.

Appropriately, Lady Jr is the size of the world’s preeminent wiggle-monster this week, the least weasel:

 

 

Overall: I feel pregnant. There’s this big lump on my abdomen that doesn’t go away or disappear, something is moving around and making its presence known beneath my belly button, and I can’t stand or walk for hours and hours without some aches and pains. It seems like that all took a long time to show up, but then I remember I still have quite a ways to go and I wonder if some of this is too soon. But no – it’s all perfectly normal and now I’m beginning to understand how very much we’ll need help when we move at 29 weeks.

 

Mood: Surprisingly stable. Not much in the way of tearing up this week, mostly just cranky. I can go from 0 to I’m-going-to-rip-out-your-spleen in about 1.3 seconds. Starting to worry about how little time we have before Moving Day (8 weeks, but more like 6 weekends tbh). Really looking forward to finding a place to live early July, so I can start nesting-from-a-distance.

 

Clothes: Almost all maternity now – I say, as I sit here typing in a comfy non-maternity dress. But we did another clothes run this week because I’m out of work shirts and I got quite a few comfy maternity things from Motherhood (they had a double clearance going on, woo!) – another skirt, a pair of pants (?!), three shirts, and a really soft sweater that I’d been eyeing last time. The pants are a liiittle too big, because that’s the only way they’d fit my thighs, but I’ll grow into them for sure and everything else is so comfy. ;.;

 

Fun(!) New Symptoms: Aches! Some pain! I spent Saturday mostly on my feet, first grocery shopping, then clothes shopping, then finally walking around the Desert Museum, and wow did I feel it. I had to sit and take breaks a lot more than usual because my hips and ligaments were not happy with me.

 

Exercise: Lifted twice, ran twice, walked a lot. I think I’m going to phase out running, though, because it’s simply too uncomfortable. I always have to pee right when I start and then the constant impact makes my hips feel a bit sore. Our complex has a few ellipticals and a stationary bike which I’m going to try instead – also since those are inside, in the a/c, I won’t be limited to cardio first thing in the morning. Lifting, though, is still completely fine. I’m sticking to light weights, but it still feels like I’m getting something out of it.

 

Dr Lady: “I’m okay.”

 

Progress Photo, 20w6d:

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Pregnancy Milestones, Halfway

As of 20 weeks, I have finally:

– Stopped looking for / expecting blood every time I go to the bathroom;
– Started saying “when” instead of “if”;
– Started a registry, with actual items that we actually need;
– Started talking to Lady Jr on a regular basis;
– Started looking pregnant to my own eyes;
– Begun wearing maternity clothes almost exclusively;
– Started actually using the word “pregnant” to describe myself;
– Begun talking about and narrowing down potential names;
– Talked to bosses about what kind of maternity leave I need / expect; and
– Started planning for the inevitable outcome of this whole pregnancy thing.

I’m actually looking at prenatal yoga and birth classes and trying to construct my own labor training regime. It’s like, as soon as I really felt Lady Jr kicking and we hit 20 weeks and my bump, well, bumped, a switch was thrown in my head from Let’s Pretend Nothing is Happening to OMG WTF BABYQ.

I even felt like a boss lifting this week, because I have a bump bitches and my piddly weights (hopefully) no longer look so piddly.

It’s not quite all at once acceptance – I still have a ways to go towards realizing that this thing in me is a real, live, soon-to-be human being – but this has been a major jump forward.

I feel like I’m finally understanding a lot of things that have always perplexed me about pregnant ladies, too. Such as: why do they touch their stomach so much?? We can see it’s there! But it’s still new to them – to me – and all these body changes are happening much faster than our own mental image of ourselves can keep up.

I also get why pregnant ladies are always talking about their being pregnant. I, too, have started talking about it more (and more [and more]). But it’s the only way I know how to process this and to continue to grapple with what’s happening. When I mention my clothes getting too small or needing to nap for two, that’s my way of reminding myself this is real, this is really happening.

It’s still weird, though. I don’t know if that will ever fade.

But yeah, I wondered when I would start feeling pregnant and stop trying to distance myself from a potential disaster and the answer is apparently 20 weeks.

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